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My travel confessions

My travel confessions

After 30 years of travel, 50 countries and seven years of blogging, you’d think I might actually be good at this travel thing by now. Travel’s my passion, and I love being able to share my advice and experiences to help other people get out there and see the world too. But I can’t help feeling like a bit of a fraud, because in some ways I’m a rubbish traveller. I’m miles away from that stereotype of a ‘serious’ traveller – those people who visit obscure countries, eat nothing but street food, travel for months at a time and befriend locals wherever they go. But there’s more than one way to travel, so I thought I’d come clean and confess my travel sins.

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Street art in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, New York

Almost looking like I know what I’m doing…

I’m not that keen on flying

Funnily enough a dislike of flying seems to be an occupational hazard for a lot of travel bloggers. Either we’re all masochists or it’s one of those necessary evils that are worth the pain in the long run, something you can forget about once you arrive in an amazing destination. For me that dislike of flying comes from a combination of feeling trapped, not having any control and turbulence making me feel sick. That and the fact we’re 30,000 feet in the air. I go through phases with flying though – there was a time when I used to be in tears on take off (and looked so terrified a random stranger once gave me a Valium), but now I power through with to a supply of books and medicinal G&Ts. But it’s never going to be something I enjoy.

View from the plane window

Are we nearly there yet?

It’s not just the physical sensation of flying either, it’s the conditions on planes too. In my dreams I swan onto the plane looking elegant, get upgraded to first and spend the flight quaffing Champagne. In reality I’m juggling three plastic bags and a travel pillow and trapped in the middle seat next to a snorer with a TV that doesn’t work. So if there’s another way to get there then I’ll take it (though maybe not boats – the motion sickness thing means they’re not my favourite either). The train is definitely my favourite way to travel. It just seems so much more civilised – more space, better views, the chance to stretch your legs. But until there’s a train across the Atlantic or over to Australia I guess I’ll have to keep braving the plane.

Premier Classe: South Africa's budget luxury train journey

Sunset from the Premier Classe overnight train in South Africa

I don’t really like travelling solo that much

A love of solo travel seems to go hand-in-hand with being a serious traveller. Isn’t it the best way to make real connections with locals and means you can just do and see the things you want to without having to compromise? Sounds good in theory, but in reality most of the time I have to admit I prefer travelling with someone else, whether that’s friends, family or even random strangers on press trips. Even as an introvert who loves her own space, I can have too much of a good thing. I have done a few solo trips – the longest was six weeks in New Zealand. But although I arrived on my own, I only spent a couple of days actually alone, and ended up spending the rest of the trip travelling around with people I met while I was out there.

New Zealand solo travel

(Not so) solo in New Zealand

For me it’s partly about having the company – and someone to share the memories with. But it’s also a bit of a safety net and confidence boost having someone with you. It can helps to push you too – to keep you going if you’re feeling exhausted and tempted to crash out with room service rather than trying an amazing restaurant. And although being able to do exactly what you want is one of the benefits of solo travel, travelling with someone else means you’re exposed to their interests – which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. You can always go off on your own if it’s something really weird, but you might find that cheesy tourist attraction you’d never have chosen to visit turns out to be one of the best memories of the trip.

The First Cliff Walk, Grindelwald, Switzerland

The scary First Cliff Walk – something I’d never have done on my own

I’m a bit of picky eater

Picking up skewers of unknown meat and bowls of mysterious stew might be some people’s idea of food heaven, but I find street food a bit scary. Running the gauntlet of night market delicacies like deep-fried spiders and rat on a stick as I travelled around Southeast Asia probably didn’t get me off to a good start. But it’s not that I don’t like food or am one of those people that won’t eat anything but Western food whenever I go abroad. It’s just that I like to know at least a bit about what it is that I’m actually eating.

Seafood in the Cinque Terre, Italy

Delicious (but slightly scary) seafood in Italy

I have some stomach problems which mean I have to be a bit more careful of what I eat than most people. I can’t eat gluten and I have to be careful with too much dairy or tomatoes. And although I try to do my research and find out what I need to avoid, sometimes eating out abroad feels a bit like playing food Russian roulette. Is this weird-looking dish going to be the most delicious thing I’ve ever tasted – or am I going to spend the rest of the trip in the bathroom? This is why I’m a big fan of apartment rentals, so I can prepare some of my own meals – and I get to indulge my obsession for exploring foreign supermarkets.

Mulled wine in Austrian Christmas market

My kind of street food – Glühwein in Austria

I don’t want to do everything

Although part of me is in awe of travellers who’ve visited every country in the world, I’m not planning on trying to join them. I have a healthy travel wishlist that will keep me going for a long while, but there are a few bits of the world I’m not really that interested in seeing, or that sound a bit too much like hard work. Like Antarctica – it tops a lot of people’s bucket lists and although it looks absolutely stunning and would be an amazing experience, in reality I don’t like boats and am terrible in the cold, so I think it’d be wasted on me. Same goes for a lot of Central Africa and the ‘stans’ of Central Asia – they just don’t really appeal to me.

Ko Samet, Thailand

In my Sangsom bucket-drinking (and very tanned!) days in Ko Samet

Your travelling tastes change over time too. 15 years ago my wishlist was all big European cities and Southeast Asian party beach towns. Now I’d rather explore smaller places, get out into the mountains or go on safari (plus my Sangsom bucket tolerance is not what it used to be). And on a smaller scale, I’m not one of those people who wants to see EVERY SINGLE THING in each place they visit. I know a lot of people want to pack the most they possibly can into every weekend break – only stopping to grab something to eat and sleep. But I’d rather chill out, pick a few things I really want to see and then spend the rest of the time wandering around, stopping for drinks and coming home feeling like I’ve actually had a break.

Hot tub sunset at Lake House Holidays

Ultimate relaxation at Log House Holidays in the Cotswolds

I’m neither a budget nor luxury traveller

When you read a lot of travel blogs and websites, it starts to feel like people are basically split into two different categories. On one hand there are the budget travellers with their backpacks, dorms beds, street food and 24-hour bus journeys. And on the other there are the luxury travellers with their business class flights, five-star hotels, private chefs and Champagne on tap. But what about the middle ground – when you’re past the ultra-budget stage but you don’t have a luxury-style income? That’s where I’ve found myself, maximising my travels by trying to stick to a limited budget and get the best value for money.

What does it cost? A week in Guadeloupe in the Caribbean

Our gorgeous (and inexpensive) AirBnB in Guadeloupe

For me it’s about saving money where I can so I have enough left to splash out on amazing experiences and a few luxurious touches. So that’s flying with easyJet but shelling out for a private transfer the other end so you don’t have to sit on a bus for hours. Or staying in an apartment rental so you can make your own breakfast then going out for a Michelin-starred restaurant for dinner. Surely this middle ground must be where a lot of travellers find themselves, so why aren’t we more visible? [We could do with a decent name for it though – ‘mid-range, good value travel with a bit of affordable luxury’ isn’t all that catchy.]

Relearning the art of patience on safari

Splahsing out on a safari in South Africa

I don’t want to travel full-time

Being a permanent – or at least long-term – traveller seems to be the dream for a lot of people. And although I did 16 months in one go in the past, these days a few weeks at a time is enough for me. I still start to get a bit panicky if I don’t have at least one trip in the diary. But after years of moving around, where I couldn’t count the number of different places I lived in, I love having a home base too. Coming back to my cats and my own bed is such a nice feeling. And sometimes I’d rather spend a few free days ticking off some of the never-ending DIY jobs or exploring places near home. Like anything, travel can start to lose some of its magic if you do it all the time. Having a gap between trips gives me chance to reflect on the last one and start getting excited about where I’ll be off to next – the anticipation is almost the best bit!

Maxy puss

Love coming home to this ridiculous face

So those are my travel confessions! Make me feel better about myself and tell me what are yours?

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My travel confessions – why being no good at solo travelling, being a picky eater and not wanting to see all of the world doesn't mean you can explore the world.

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  • Reply
    Tracey S
    May 17, 2018 at 7:15 pm

    I agree with your confession I don’t need to see everything, I also prefer to stay in apartments rather than hotels and in fact, air bnb’s where the host is at home are my favourite.

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      May 18, 2018 at 8:41 pm

      I’ve not done many AirBnBs that are hosted but keep meaning too as it sounds like a really good way to get some local insight on a destination.

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    Vyki from Museum Mum
    May 18, 2018 at 9:19 am

    Great confessional! I also don’t like to do too much on our holidays, generally I pick one thing and focus on that. I want to come back refreshed rather than exhausted! Being able to go at a slower pace is part of what makes travelling special for me, although when I read other travel bloggers’ long lists of where they went and what they did, it does make me feel inadequate.

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      May 18, 2018 at 8:46 pm

      Me too! Part of me thinks I should be doing more and seeing everything I can, but I do like taking my time and having space to breathe – it usually means I come across something really great that I would never have expected.

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    Patsy Hinson
    May 18, 2018 at 11:41 am

    My “confession” is that I have to plan for days before and after the trip to rest in order to really enjoy it. It’s my transition time. Yes, please, please write more post about those of us in the “middle” place. That’s what I look for. Also, love that you give specific suggestions for placing to stay, etc.

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      May 18, 2018 at 8:47 pm

      Glad I’m not the only one in the middle! I definitely need some time to decompress before and after trips too – I don’t always get much but find I’m so much happier and more relaxed if I can.

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    May 19, 2018 at 10:08 pm

    I am definitely a middle-budget-traveler. (Having a large family forces this in a way, but I appreciate the great variety of experiences it gives us…we’ve stayed in bunks in hostels and done some fancier Hilton vacation club stays, but usually we are in the middle with Airbnbs.) Because we have traveled so much the past few years, I have certainly evolved in my travel preferences. I like “me time” for wandering and taking photos, but when we started traveling in Europe I was packing in too much to “see it all” – I’m trying to chill a bit on that front. But my biggest travel hangups: encountering non-English languages (although we’re lucky that SO many people around the world know at least some English to help me out!), and “transitional anxiety” which I think of as the time between leaving your front door until you walk through the door of your destination accommodation…I hate the steps in between and managing transportation! Ugh.

    I appreciate your honesty!

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      May 22, 2018 at 11:08 am

      Me time is definitely needed (not least as I take so many photos I tend to bore anyone I’m travelling with!). I know exactly what you mean about transitional anxiety too – that day of getting to and from a place is always the worst for me too, if only I could be magicked over there without the plane journey, struggling with transport and currency while you’re jet-lagged and exhausted!

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    May 20, 2018 at 2:12 am

    I can relate to a few things you mentioned in this post, Lucy. I’m neither a budget nor a luxury traveler; I usually end up somewhere in the middle as I tend to choose the cheapest options for a few things, but I can indulge in others, like food, for I know they are so unique to the place I’m visiting and I can’t find it anywhere else. And speaking of traveling full-time, the idea was very intriguing to me and I was actually wondering whether I should go down the same path. However, a six-month trip I did with my best friend three years ago made me realize that I actually prefer to have a rather permanent base because constantly moving from one place to another can be quite exhausting. That’s why after the trip ended, I decided to look for a job, find an apartment, and go on a vacation every now and then. All in all, everyone should understand what works for him/her the best because one traveling style can’t please everyone.

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      May 22, 2018 at 11:09 am

      Definitely! I think having that mix of travel and a home base really helps you to appreciate both of them – constant movement can be so tiring and there’s always that slight feeling of guilt if you’re in an amazing destination and you’re not out exploring all the time but it’s hard to sustain that pace in the long term if you don’t have some downtime too.

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    Mel Graham
    May 20, 2018 at 7:53 am

    Great article and I can identify with it all! I too hate flying and see it as a means to an end – not good on boats either! Train travel is far more civilised….. Street food is by and large a no-no “unidentifiable meat on a stick” is not my idea of a good chow down! I love a great boutique hotel but we often stay in AirBnB places too to save a bit of cash and have more space. You are so right about the middle ground too – I have no desire to travel on overcrowded buses and sleep in a dorm that smells of sweaty feet. Neither can I afford to turn left on the plane and stay in over pampered luxury all the time. I think I may have been you in another life!

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      May 22, 2018 at 11:11 am

      Sounds like we are travel twins! I’m trying to plan another train trip now as I love it so much, it’s the only method of transport I actually find relaxing rather than stressful. Still dreaming of the day I can turn left on the plane but it’s not happened yet!

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    Prerrna Mirchi
    May 20, 2018 at 3:26 pm

    I can totally relate to “I’m not that keen on flying”. I live on an island in the middle of the Indian ocean so travelling involves fighting off my claustrophobia till I step off the plane onto solid ground. Have you visited Mauritius? Maybe u might like to add it to your to-do list 🙂

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      May 22, 2018 at 11:13 am

      Oh no that would mean a lot of flying! I’d love to visit Mauritius someday – I went to the Seychelles a couple of years back and was looking at Mauritius for this year as I had some Air France vouchers but couldn’t quite get the dates to work – hopefully soon though!

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    May 23, 2018 at 2:15 pm

    Couldn’t agree with you more on the not traveling solo and mid-range not luxury travel categories. Both describe me to a tee! I am, however, that person that always wants to see everything everywhere all the time… though I’m trying to teach myself to relax a bit more rather than always planning a jam packed itinerary. So far I’ve been… maybe a little successful?

    Anyway, thanks for sharing this. It’s always good to read about other people’s feelings and confessions. Makes me think about where I stand, among other things.


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      May 30, 2018 at 5:19 pm

      It can be hard to relax when there’s so much you want to see. I think travelling more has made it easier for me to be lazier as I can’t take quite the same pace now if I haven’t got so long to unwind between trips!

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    Jaillan Yehia
    May 23, 2018 at 4:43 pm

    What a great idea for a post, and a nice refreshing honest thing to read! I share a lot of these guilty secrets (but no fear of flying) and I have always LOVED coming home to my cat almost as much as I love going away 🙂

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      May 30, 2018 at 5:20 pm

      Miss my cats so much when I’m away (I’m off this afternoon so I’m squeezing in some extra lap time before I leave!).

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    Suzanne - The Travelbunny
    May 28, 2018 at 12:49 am

    I’m secretly a bit of a home bod too and love coming home to my own bed and seeing what’s changed in the garden since I’ve been away. It’s good to have a little time in between trips to properly consider where you’ve just been and enjoy the anticipation of the next trip.

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      May 30, 2018 at 5:22 pm

      Definitely, I always appreciate having both home and travel time, and would never want to do just one!

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    alison abbott
    May 28, 2018 at 3:36 am

    One of the things I love about travel blogging is the way it showcases the different ways you can travel the world. There’s room for everyone, and we all have our own way to make it work. While I do love to fly, like you, there are plenty of ways I don’t fit into the stereotype. And I do love being at home with friends and family too. The honestly of your writing was really a refreshing read!

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      May 30, 2018 at 5:23 pm

      I do wish I loved to fly (not least as I have an 8-hour flight tomorrow!) but as you say it takes all sorts!

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    June 4, 2018 at 7:53 am

    Great post! I really love anything that tries to dispell the myth of the “archetypal traveller” (or defining a traveller versus a tourist…). I can totally relate about solo travel, too. I had an absolutely incredible time travelling around Albania last year, but I spent very little time actually alone as I met such fantastic people. Whereas during my time in Bulgaria last month, I felt I couldn’t connect to any of the early 20-something backpackers in my hostel – there was just too much of a disconnect in why we were travelling and where we were in our lives.
    Plus, if you think avoiding tomatoes is bad, try onions – absolute nightmare.

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      June 6, 2018 at 11:16 am

      I’ve not done hostels for a while but it does seem to vary so much depending on where you are – I don’t think I’d be able to (or want to!) keep up with the 18-year-olds now! I feel your pain on the onions – I had a few months of no onions/garlic as well as tomatoes, wheat and dairy and ended up just doing self-catering as it was too hard!

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    Lizzie Lacey-Brennan
    June 6, 2018 at 11:11 am

    I can’t believe how much this sounds like me, we seem to have pretty much identical views! Thanks so much for sharing 🙂

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      June 6, 2018 at 11:22 am

      Glad it’s not just me!

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    June 8, 2018 at 1:37 pm

    The notion of being a budget or luxury traveler is kinda silly to me. 90% of the time I’m pretty cheap but being cheap just for the sake of seems like a lot of hassle. Sometimes spending a bit more is actually just the best way. for example, after a friend had knew surgery we had to go to nicer hotels that had sit down toilets!

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      June 14, 2018 at 8:27 am

      Sit-down toilets are usually a must for me! Some people do almost get a bit competitive on how cheap they can go though, but sometimes it’s so little extra to have a much more enjoyable experience.

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    Meglio Vivere
    June 19, 2018 at 5:58 pm

    Nice post. It was interesting to read your confessions.

    Essentially you’re comparing yourself to a stereotype. We’re all different and we all have our own way of doing things. Keep doing yours!

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      June 20, 2018 at 8:41 pm

      Thanks – and yes there’s nothing wrong with being different!

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    Tiffany Althoff
    July 26, 2018 at 7:34 pm

    Ahh I very much relate to this!

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      August 2, 2018 at 9:22 pm

      Thanks Tiffany!

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